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Turning Hearts to the Fathers

And he shall turn the heart of the fathers to the children, and the heart of the children to their fathers…

Malachi 4:6

I love the idea of having a family tree in the home to always remember the wonderful heritage we come from. However, I don’t really like how family trees often look.

Then one day, I came across this cute shop: My Tree and Me and I fell in love. I loved their modern take on the family tree and wanted to do something like it (but not pay $120).

So I decided to make one of my own. Originally, I had thought that I was just stealing the idea straight from them (I saw the site, forgot to bookmark it, made one of my own, then found the site again), but it turned out that my idea was different that the specific trees they sell.

Here it is:

I love love love the way it turned out. I found a frame at Ikea that is 20×20 so I just need to get this printed and it will be a great addition to my living room. (I thought it was a little bit weird to post the first and last names of all my family on an open blog … I try to be safe about what I put up here … so I changed out the names for this post, but in the real tree it has all the first, middle and last names for James’ five generations.)

I toyed around with the idea of including more information like birth and death dates for each person (as applicable) but decided not to for right now. I just love how clean and simple it is. Maybe in the future I’ll expand it a little bit more, but for now I am very happy.

Now I just have to come up with another idea for baby #2. (who still doesn’t have a name. Guess we shouldn’t have used up all our grandpa names with james…)

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5 Years

Sometimes when I think about it, I can’t believe it has really been five years since this day:

Our Wedding Day

Five years seems like such a long time, but it still seems like it was just yesterday that we entered the temple together and made sacred covenants and changed our lives forever.

As I was reading through the Ensign this last week and with the thought in my mind that our anniversary was coming up, I reread Elder Richard G. Scott’s talk from the Sunday afternoon session of this last General Conference, The Eternal Blessings of Marriage. As I read the talk and thought about my own feelings about the blessing that marriage is in my life, I was touched with something he said.

I have no power to describe the peace and serenity that come from the assurance that as I continue to live worthily, I will be able to be with my beloved Jeanene and our children forever beacuse of that sacred ordinance performed with the proper priesthood authority in the house of the Lord.

I echo Elder Scott’s feelings and know that words can’t fully describe how wonderful it is to know that our family can be forever. I feel so thankful to know that I can be with Bryan for all eternity. As we sit together on the couch and talk about the mundane things that happened during the day, I am filled with such a peace and wonder knowing that as we live worthy, these simple yet joyful moments never have to end.

I love Bryan more today than I ever have, and know that our love can continue to grow in the many many more years we will spend together.

The temple sealing has greater meaning as life unfolds. It will help you draw ever closer together and find greater joy and fulfillment.

-Elder Richard G. Scott

 

 

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Scary Movies

I’m not a big scary movie person. I never have been.

When I was little my older brother and younger sister watched Gremlins and it scared me so much. I spent most of the movie behind the couch, hiding. I think since then, I’ve never really enjoyed scary movies.

I’ve seen a couple here and there, but things just hang in my mind for too long and without a doubt, if I see a scary movie, I’ll have nightmares about it. And it always seems that whenever I watch a scary movie, something frightening happens in my life to go along with it and make the whole situation worse.

Example:

In college, my friend Ashlie and I were invited to join my cousin Ashley and her friends for a movie night in Smith Park. When we got there, the sun had set and the park was dark. We sat on blankets and pillows and watched Poltergeist. Now, it would not have been my first choice of movie, but we were already there and stayed for the whole thing. After the movie, Ashlie and I went home and got ready for bed. As we were chatting, we flipped off the light and climbed into bed. Seconds later, the light turned back on…by itself. I don’t remember exactly what happened next, but I am sure it included screaming like babies and running from the room. That was probably just me though.

We discovered that there was a short in the light switch. As a makeshift solution until the apartment complex could fix it, we used tape to hold the switch all the way down so we could get some sleep. Although after the movie and our mysteriously turning on light, I don’t think that I slept very much.

That taught me to watch a scary movie in the park.

Another example didn’t happen to me, but I was an eye-witness.

My family was still living in Orem and my older brother decided he wanted to watch The Blair Witch Project. He spent the evening with his friends watching the movie. After it was over he came home and was telling my parents about how much the movie frightened him and how freaked out he was. I was sitting on their bed listening, but not paying too much attention because even him telling them about the movie scared me. After we were all done chatting, my parents told us to go down and go to bed. I followed Rob into the hall, but stopped to get something. He had already made it down the first flight of stairs and was getting ready to flip on the dining room light, so I stood at the top of the stairs and waited for the light. Just as he flipped the switch, the light bulbs flashed and burned out.

I have never seen my brother jump so high in his life.

And he squealed like a little girl. Thinking back about it, I still laugh.

So I think I’ll stick with comedies and romance for my movies of choice.

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Good-bye 2010 : Hello 2011

2010 was a really great year for us, the Phelps family. We made a lot of huge changes and had some wonderfully memorable moments.

At the beginning of the year, I was pregnant, and huge and uncomfortable.

Finding a comfortable way to sit at work for eight hours a day really brought out the creativity in me… In the picture above, please note, there are two different chairs in my cubical (I had two others in the empty cubical next to me that I swapped with too), there is a can of Easy Cheese on the floor next to me (no wonder I gained so much weight), I am sitting on the floor, propped up by a padded stool, my shoes are on the floor next to the Easy Cheese, and yes, that is a life vest (who doesn’t have life vests in their cubicles at work?).

We traveled to California to get family pictures taken before Joseph left.

The happy McFamily clan…

My favorite little brother, joined the ranks of missionaries in The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. He left to go serve and teach the people in Cusco, Peru on March 19.

Our Sweet Baby James joined our family in April. Becoming the 3rd member of our Phelps family; the 12th to the Sue and Sherm Phelps family (we added 11th a few months before, with cute Maddy and 13th three months later with Aubrey); the 11th to the Ed and Kenna McCracken Family; and the 81st to the Kent and LouJean Walker family.

He also completed five generations…

Bottom from Left to Right: James Edward Phelps, Afton Bullock, Katie Phelps. Top from Left to Right: Kent S. Walker, Kenna L. McCraken. This is my mom’s dad, and his mom.

Then when James was two weeks old, we packed up and moved.

We actually closed on the house three days before James was born while I was on bed rest (the people were so nice and came and let us sign all the documents at our house, so I could stay in bed, well, close to the bed), received the keys the day before James was born (and I wanted to go walk through our house with our own set of keys and kind of broke the bed rest… James decided to come later that night. I wonder if I pushed myself into labor?)

Moving with a 2-week-old really wasn’t that bad. I didn’t really have to do anything. ha ha ha!

We were called to be nursery workers in our new ward.

I quit my job of three years at Henry Schein Practice Solutions and said good-bye to my cubical friend, BJ for the last time.

He was our department dummy. Now I stay home and play with James all day. In Aug. I also began babysitting my friend, Ian’s, little girl, Leyla.

Bryan quit his job at OrangeSoda and started a new job at MonaVie.

We sadly said good-bye to Teddy.

After moving to a house without grass and no fence, Teddy started having a lot of accidents and running away a lot. We realized he deserved something better and we found it for him. A cute family from Payson had one Shiz-tsu and wanted another one to be their 11-year-old son’s dog. They wanted a dog that their son could play with and sleep with and call his own. They had a big fenced yard with lots of grass and had a doggie door so Teddy could come and go as he pleased. I cried and cried. I still miss him sometimes. But I know he’s much happier with a yard and grass.

James was a tiger for Halloween.

And one time when we went to show off his cute costume, I forgot the jacket. The second time he wore it, he had a blow-out all over it. So he didn’t really do a lot of Halloween celebrating in it, but he sure looked cute.

James loved Thanksgiving because of all the mashed potatoes and small pieces of ham he got.

We celebrated our first Christmas as a family and it was wonderful.

2010 was a really great year.

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Wolfman’s Cabin

please note: The events below are a true story, although some facts may have been distorted in the seven years it has been since this happened. In my mind I feel like a lot of the story has been exaggerated by my own thoughts and imagination, however, talking with Ashley, I find that she remembers much of the events the same and it might not be as exaggerated as I think.

The Fall of 2003 was a wonderful time. I was a freshman at BYU-Idaho. I was living with some wonderful roommates and we had so much fun together. Both of my favorite cousins were at BYU-I with me and the three of us spent time together enjoying the local sights and sounds.

At the time, my cousin Eleena was dating a boy named Luke and we would hang out with him and his roommates. They lived in a house that had been converted into a few different apartments and there were always so many different boys there. I never was actually sure who lived there and who was just visiting.

One weekend evening, Eleena called Ashley and I to come and hang out with her, Luke, Brent and DJ. We all gathered at Eleena’s apartment and waited for the boys to arrive. They wouldn’t tell us where we were going or what we were doing and the night grew later and later.

Finally around 11:30 the boys arrived and we set off. Based on previous experiences with these young men, I knew it was going to be an adventure and I was right.

We all piled into Brent’s SUV. Brent and a girl none of us knew sat in the front seat. Ashley, DJ and I sat in the middle row and Eleena and Luke climbed into the back.

Shortly after we began our drive, Brent pulled off the road to an empty field. They walked us out to the middle of the field and as we stood in the moonlight, recounted the tale of Wolfman’s Cabin.

Wolfman wasn’t always a wolfman. He was married and had a son. His wife tragically died, sending wolfman into a life of seclusion. He and his son moved to a cabin in the mountains surrounding Rexburg. Living in the woods he began to befriend the wolves. He keeps them in a corral near his home and feeds them so they continue coming back. Very few ever see him or his son. As his son grows older he makes friends with some other young men in the area. They began drinking and partying. Soon their partying led to even more dangerous activities and girls began to come up missing from, then, Ricks College.

Many believed it was the Wolfman’s son and his friends. The police searched the cabin and found enough evidence to arrest the boys but they had disappeared. The police believe the boys took the girls from Ricks College and locked them in the grain silo on the property, and later fed the remains to the wolves.

The Wolfman wasn’t arrested and didn’t believe to be connected with the kidnapping and murder of the girls from Ricks. He later died and some have suggested that the boys frequently come back to the cabin to party. More girls have even turned up missing since, but police haven’t ever been able to find them.

We were going to Wolfman’s cabin.  I looked from Eleena to Ashley and back to Eleena again. As we exchanged worried looks, I knew were were all thinking the same thing: What had we gotten ourselves into?

As we continued the drive up to the cabin, we chatted about cell phones and Brent asked which of us had cell phones with us. A little while later, we arrived and parked down a small hill from the cabin and silo. It was pitch black, the moon was full but we were pretty far into the trees and the light from the moon cast shadows over the cabin, making it hard to see exactly what it looked like or how big it was. We were hesitant to get out of the car, but the boys assured us that they had visited before and there was nothing to worry about.

We began the walk up the small hill to the cabin. As we walked Brent pointed out an old fence he said used to hold the wolves. Once at the cabin we headed inside, armed with only two flashlights. I stayed close to Brent as he had one of the lights. The rooms of the cabin were small and torn apart. The floors were littered with garbage and the walls were peppered with graffiti.

As we headed back out of the cabin, we head a gun shot in the distance. I was done, it was time to leave. Grabbing Eleena’s arm and insisting to Brent that we leave, we started to run out of the cabin. The boys stopped our run and assured us that we still didn’t have anything to worry about. People hunted all the time up this mountain and we were fine. Plus they added, the sound didn’t even sound close to us and they still wanted to see inside the silo. Since they had the keys, we didn’t have much of a choice and headed after them to the silo.

At this point, I was pretty worried and wanted to go home. I didn’t dare go inside the silo and tried to keep the car in my sight, wanting to still stay close to Brent and the flashlight. Because of the small hill, I wasn’t able to see the car anymore and glanced inside the silo just long enough to see a noose hanging from the rafters.

Then, another gunshot. Closer this time. Followed by a scream that pierced the night silence.

Grabbing hands, Ashley, Eleena and I ran back to the car, closely followed by Brent, DJ, Luke and the other girl (I don’t remember he name. I’m sure we knew it that night).

We got back to the car and piled in as quickly as our legs would allow. With the keys in the engine, Brent turned and the car chugged and chugged, but wouldn’t start. He turned the keys again. Chug, chug, chug. Nothing. Chug, chug, chug. Nothing. I looked out the windows and saw shadows moving around the car. In disbelief of what I was seeing, I turned again to Brent. Chug, chug, chug. Nothing. I looked out the window again and as if made of shadows shapes of people began to appear and move toward our car.

Chug, chug, chug. Nothing.

Next to me in the seat, Ashley had slumped down covering herself with her jacked and I heard he swear. Behind us Eleena was screaming. I pulled the hood of my jacked over my head and crowded down as low as I could in the seat and held the lock button down on the door I was sitting next to. One of the boys were yelling to Brent to get the doors locked and get the car started.

As the figures came to our car they began pulling on the handles. In an attempt to lock the doors Brent hit the unlock button. I slammed my lock back down before the dark figures could get my door open, but one pulled open the driver’s side door and began yelling at us to get out of the car. Then asked us for our money, cell phones and any belonging we may have. I lied and told them I didn’t have a cell phone, holding my hand firmly on the lock button of the car.

The hooded figure pulled Brent out of the car and suddenly as the shadows appeared they were gone along with any sign of Brent. We knew we had to get out of there but didn’t want to leave Brent. DJ insisted that we go out and look for him. And unlocked his door. He climbed out of the car and Luke followed.

There was no way I was staying in the car if the two boys we getting out (yes, I am that kind of girl who believes boys will keep her safe).

I ran to catch up with DJ and Luke. We walked along the road until DJ saw something on the side of the road, it was Brent!

He was crumpled up in a small ditch just off the road he wasn’t moving and I could see bruises on his face. As Luke tried to get Brent to wake up, I looked around to see if there was a main road close that we could get to and try to get home. Suddenly, over a hill, headlights appeared followed by a gunshot. We ran back to the car. I jumped into the seat next to Ashley and held the lock again as tight as I could.

DJ jumped in the door on the other side and Luke jumped in the driver’s seat and turned the keys.

Chug, chug, chug. Nothing.

He locked the doors just in time for the truck to park right behind our car and the shadowy figures pilled out of the back and came to our car again.

Our car was filled with screaming and I noticed that they weren’t trying to get the car doors open, they were just banging on the doors and shaking the car. I looked up to the figure just outside my window and noticed he was wearing a white cowboy hat and laughing.

(I don’t know what went through my head in the split second between seeing him laugh and what I did next, but I might have been insane.)

I unlocked my door and pushed it as hard as I could into the stomach of the boy wearing the white cowboy hat. He backed away and I charged after him. I balled up my fingers and swung as hard as I could and felt my fist graze his cheek.

He continued to laugh and I noticed that all around me the people attacking our car stopped and were watching me and laughing. Then I saw Brent and he was laughing!

“You should have seen your face, Katie! I can’t believe you just punched him,” he laughed as he walked toward me.

Suddenly, I knew this had all been a prank, a joke meant to scare us. All of the shadowy figures were some of the other boys that lived in the house with them and their friends. Brent unfolded their master plan, telling us it was Brandon who screamed in the woods, the bruising on his face was just a little makeup, and while we were at the silo, the others had unplugged the starter of the car. They did have guns with them, but they didn’t have any bullets and had fired a few blanks into the night. He also explained that the conversation about the cell phones on the way up was to make sure they had all the phones from us, so we couldn’t call 911 during their prank.

I stared unbelievably as Brent continued his tale, laughing at our reactions. For the second time that night, I balled up my fist and swung with all my might, hitting Brent squarely in the face.

Luke and DJ came up to me to congratulate me on my awesome punch, and I asked if they were in on this prank. They said no and backed away (Luke later told me he was in on it the whole time, but lied when I asked because he didn’t want to get punched).

As I calmed down, I was able to laugh about the whole situation and apologized to the boy in the cowboy hat and Brent from my outbreaks of violence. Brent told me he hoped that I gave him a black eye. He said that would make the whole story even better.

And really, the whole evening became a wonderful story of the first (and last) time that I have ever punched someone. And now I know in a moment of panic, I will go into fight (if there’s no way to flight).

congratulations on making it to the end.
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A Whole New World

I recently started to babysit my friends’ little girl, Leyla, during the day. Its kind of great because it gives me an opportunity to watch all my favorite Disney Movies that I haven’t seen for so many years.

Watching these fun movies brings me back and reminds me of wonderful times in my life growing up and having fun with my cousins and sisters.

The other day, we watched Aladdin.

As Aladdin and Jasmin began their magic carpet ride I thought back to the dance we made up to the song, “A Whole New World.” We pulled the stools out of the kitchen and placed a rug across it. I was Aladdin and my cousin Eleena was Jasmin. Melanie and Heather put on their matching green swimming suits and danced around the magic carpet while Eleena and I sang along with the CD.

We had so much fun.

We also had dances to songs from Beauty and the Beast, The Lion King, The Little Mermaid and so many others.

Cousins!

Eleena, Katie, Ashley

More Cousins

Heather, Eleena, Melanie, Katie, Ashley, Rachel, Brittany

Some of my favorite memories of my childhood are with my cousins. I was lucky enough to grow up with so many cousins, and so many so close to my age. We were able to spend so much of our summers together and so many holidays. For family reunions we would make up plays and cast all the younger children in our productions. We would have scripts, costumes and often musical numbers.

One year, the play was a pioneer theme. Eleena did a great job with the script. It was a highlight of the family reunion.

We also made up songs about each other. The year Melanie got a perm and we made up “Mophead McCracken” was a classic. It was to the tune of “Cruella DeVil.”

Until I was in jr. high, I can’t remember a New Year’s Eve that doesn’t include my cousins. One year we spent almost the whole night playing one of the versions of Donkey Kong on the Super Nintendo (the level in the mine car). Another year, (the year of the flu) we watched the scene in Toy Story where the shark jumped out of the toy box wearing Woody’s hat and said, “I’m Woody! Howdy, Howdy, Howdy!” over and over again. We were all sick with the flu, we were a little bit crazy that year.

Even during college we had wonderful times together. My freshman year, Eleena, Ashley and I were all at BYU-I. We went up the the broken Teton Dam and visited and old house in the woods, Wolfman’s Cabin. It was there, that I first punched a person in the face. Great story; I’ll save it for another post.

We’ve laughed together, cried together and even laughed until we cried (like the night we tried to explain to Melanie and Heather about how Brandon thought Grandma died by choking on a chicken bone…). And although as we have gotten older and and don’t see each other as often my cousins will always be some of my best friends and my favorite people in the world. They have been there for me when things have been bad and I hope they know that if they ever need someone I will ALWAYS be there for them if they need me.

Love you girls!

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